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You Can Stop Feeling Guilty that You Didn’t Use Your Crystal Ball or Prevent Your Child’s Death

The day my son died, I fed him his early morning feeding at 5:30am and he went back to sleep. I was transitioning back to full-time at work so I had to wake him up at 7:30am and “top him off” before leaving to go to the sitter’s house. Since he had eaten at 5:30am he...

Are You Missing an Opportunity to Help Your Teen with Loss?

Grief/Loss, Healing, Parenting, Personal Growth

“He’s gotten an attitude lately. He’s talking back and acting surly every time I ask him to do anything. His favorite word is ‘Well …’ and he says it in a huff and with an eye roll.” Does this sound like your teenager? Yeah, mine too. If you are wondering why,...

Not Talking About Death – THIS is a Tragedy

Grief/Loss, Healing, Personal Growth

Last week I survived the 13th anniversary of my son’s death. Even after 13 years, the dreaded day comes and it’s painful. In fact, the days and weeks leading up to the anniversary date are extremely emotional and anxious and heart-wrenching. Those who have not...

3 Simple Ideas to Help You Live After Loss

Grief/Loss

Learning to live without your loved one is a long and difficult road to travel. Through books,support groups, blind luck, and the grace of God, I have learned many things that were of great help to me. I share three simple ideas here. I hope they help you on your...

Grief – Do I Have To?

Grief/Loss

The holidays are over and the first half of January is too … Well thank goodness! The holidays are hard. They are stressful for everyone, especially those who are missing someone who has died … a mother, father, sister, husband, son or daughter. I have...

Why do Bad Things Happen to Good People?

Grief/Loss, Healing, Personal Growth

Why do bad things happen to good people? This question comes to mind so often in life … when you see stories on the news of people committing hateful and violent acts against one another, when you learn your co-worker’s spouse walked away from the marriage...

What To Do When Your Loved One Is Suffering from a Loss

Grief/Loss

By Jennifer Hacker – The best piece of advice I can give you is “Don’t avoid talking to the grieving person about their loved one.” Most people avoid the merest mention of the person who died because they think, “She seems to be doing well today so I don’t want to...

The Park Next to the Cemetery

Grief/Loss

Sometimes I have this random desire to say something about Jackson’s death, out of the blue, to someone totally unsuspecting and completely innocent. For example, today I invited my brother-in-law to join me and the kids at Raymond Russell park. He asked,...